I tend to think of this blog as a group email to some friends from college and some in Madison. I put some code in the template that's supposed to make it impossible to find via a search engine—how stupid to think that that would actually work.
None of this is adequate justification for my thoughtlessness in making a crude and thoughtless joke here at the expense of an old, dear friend, who (unexpectedly) saw it and was deeply hurt.
I feel terrible and know there's no way to remedy this situation. Of course I'll apologize directly to them but it might take a day or two to get their contact info; in the meantime I am posting this heartfelt apology here.
I do wish them nothing but joy and am sorry I marred their new happiness by making a stupid joke.
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The sense of trust is that, when you apply your inquisitiveness, when you look into a situation, you know that you will get a definite response.
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You trust, not in success, but in reality.... [W]hatever the result that comes from your action, that result is not an end in itself. You can always go beyond the result; it is the seed for a further journey.
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Often, when someone tells us we should be fearless, we think they're saying not to worry, that everything is going to be all right. But unconditional fearlessness is simply based on being awake....
[F]earlessness is unconditional because you are neither on the side of success or failure. Success and failure are your journey.
4 comments:
Try not to beat yourself up too much about it. You're human, after all. And in the time that I've known you, you've never been anything less than kind, generous, and open-hearted. So you goofed. We all do. I hope the offended parties forgive you; they should.
no, there's no excuse, it's just so stupid. I'm always so careful not to put any real names in. (see below where I talk about Carol's baby, took all the names out, like a smart person--even though I didn't say anything negative there). What the heck was I thinking?
I emailed an apology and the family very kindly forgave me. I learned my lesson!
YAY!!! I'm glad your apology went over! I kinda knew it would. I once told a really good friend that I hated his girlfriend (he asked me what I thought, honestly). He then told me he was giong to propose to her. And stopped talking to me. I never apologized (I'm a hot-head, and it felt like a set-up). But now he talks to me again. I no longer think his girlfriend sucks. But his wife does!!! HA HA! I made myself laugh!
Welcome to the new Loopy!!!
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