......success and failure are your journey*......
So it all boils down to: can a person who easily gets hurt, live with a person who easily gets angry, and for how long before they're just... done. | www.flickr.com or visit www.flickr.com/photos/birdfarm |
*The quote in the top bar is from Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, whom I tend to view with some suspcion as a person (great teacher or charismatic cult leader? I'm not sure!), but whose teachings I often find useful nonetheless... here is a further elaboration:
The sense of trust is that, when you apply your inquisitiveness, when you look into a situation, you know that you will get a definite response.
If you take steps to accomplish something, that action will have a result--either failure or success. When you shoot your arrow, either it will hit the target or it will miss. Trust is knowing that there will be a message.
When you trust in those messages, the reflections of the phenomenal world, the world begins to seem like a bank, or reservoir, of richness. You feel that you are living in a rich world, one that never runs out of messages....
You trust, not in success, but in reality.... [W]hatever the result that comes from your action, that result is not an end in itself. You can always go beyond the result; it is the seed for a further journey.
And,
Often, when someone tells us we should be fearless, we think they're saying not to worry, that everything is going to be all right. But unconditional fearlessness is simply based on being awake....
[F]earlessness is unconditional because you are neither on the side of success or failure. Success and failure are your journey.
1 comment:
My ex husband had a generally negative attitude. Someone would cut him off in traffic, he'd bitch about it for fifteen minutes, spewing negativity. He'd say cruel shit about clerks, waitresses, random strangers.
When he turned that red headed rage on me, I did not dig it.
Getting angry is one thing; everyone gets angry. Does it burn off fast, or is it a general outlook on the world?
For me the question was 'Do I really resonate with this person who is fundamentally negative all the time?' The answer was no.
Maybe you gotta ask if your hurt is a reasonable response? Is she hurting you? Or are you taking on hurt where none was meant?
*hugs*
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