Monday, December 28, 2009
check-in #6
thinking. i made a new friend today. we talked about when you get too needy in friendships and just use people up, burn through them... apparently this is his habit... he dives in and grabs on and just eats people up and then they can't take any more and abandon him... but now, he has a new girlfriend who is doing the same thing to him.
i've done this in the past, though less extremely than he has.
so i told him about meditation and about how nothing outside himself can satisfy those needs. he was really interested... he thinks i'm very wise and he's very eager to be best friends now.
he's a likeable guy. i would like to be friends with him - god knows i can use more friends. but, this is an experiment in good boundaries. so far i think i have maintained them pretty well. i explained to him that i was going to do so, and that sometimes it would be uncomfortable for him because it would be like he was trying to dance and i wasn't stepping into his rhythm. i did that several times.
i exercised this morning - took dogs for an hour walk (we are dogsitting an extra baby). so that was good. haven't eaten right tho - only a bowl of cheerios and some christmas cookies for breakfast, no lunch. i'll go fix that right now.
i've done this in the past, though less extremely than he has.
so i told him about meditation and about how nothing outside himself can satisfy those needs. he was really interested... he thinks i'm very wise and he's very eager to be best friends now.
he's a likeable guy. i would like to be friends with him - god knows i can use more friends. but, this is an experiment in good boundaries. so far i think i have maintained them pretty well. i explained to him that i was going to do so, and that sometimes it would be uncomfortable for him because it would be like he was trying to dance and i wasn't stepping into his rhythm. i did that several times.
i exercised this morning - took dogs for an hour walk (we are dogsitting an extra baby). so that was good. haven't eaten right tho - only a bowl of cheerios and some christmas cookies for breakfast, no lunch. i'll go fix that right now.
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Exercize - that's a really good reminder for me. I've been putting it off.
My big achievement for this week has been resting and relaxing. I could use another month's worth of vacation.
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